A lot of us are blessed with amazing friends who really want to take care of us. But sometimes, although they mean well, they cause themselves a little harm. Let me explain. 

We’re sickos. We have chronic illness issues all the time, right? Our friends know that. So sometimes, they decide to NOT tell us when THEY are feeling sick. This is because they think their illness isn’t as bad as ours. Or because they know we have to talk and think about illness all the time, so why add to that? But this is WRONG, babes. We need our friends to talk about their experiences! Today’s video is a great one to share with them so they are reminded that we care.

*AWAP = As Well As Possible

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Until we meet again: Be AWAP! Smooches!


(Loose) Transcript:

(Jenni on the phone) Oh, why didn’t you tell me? Because you thought it wasn’t as bad as what I have? Babe, tell me next time, OK? I can help! (Jenni looks into camera with face)

Hi! I’m Jenni Grover Prokopy of ChronicBabe.com and today is AWAP Wednesday (that stands for As Well As Possible).

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A lot of us are blessed with amazing friends who really want to take care of us. But sometimes, although they mean well, they cause themselves a little harm. Let me explain.

We’re sickos. We have chronic illness issues all the time, right? Our friends know that. So sometimes, they decide to NOT tell us when THEY are feeling sick.

This is because they think their illness isn’t as bad as ours. Or because they know we have to talk and think about illness all the time, so why add to that?

But this is WRONG, babes. We need our friends to talk about their experiences!

First and foremost, because we are PROS. We know so much more about the healthcare system than they do, so we can help them through challenges and make their experience go easier.

And we can help soothe their emotional upheaval around illness, because we’ve dealt with that too. We have a lot of experience working on acceptance, dealing with fear, coping with sadness – and we can teach them a lot.

Finally, we don’t want friends to get stuck feeling like their illness is not worth talking about because it’s “not as bad” as ours. Listen, friends, I’ve had a head cold before and they SUCK. If you’ve got one, I want you to tell me so I can bring you tissues and orange juice and cough drops. I can do that. Even if I’m in a flare-up, I can still hop in my car and run to the grocery for you! And I want to, because you’re my friend.

Friendship is a two-way street, so we need to nurture those relationships and keep reminding our friends that their experiences matter. It’s not a competition of who is sickest; it’s a collaboration of support and help, no matter how trivial the illness or pain is.

We can do this by continually asking our friends how they are. We may even ask them point-blank: How’s your health? We may even get specific and say to them: “You know, I want to be clear that if you ever have a health issue you want to talk about, I’m here for you, no matter how small you think it is.” By being explicit about our wish to help them in the same way they help us, we’re strengthening that bond.

Make sure your friends know you’re available to them, no matter how small their sniffles are.

Thanks for watching today! Have you created contingency plans before? I’d love to know. Share your strategy in the comments here or head on over to the blog at ChronicBabe.com to join the conversation—I want to hear what YOU have to say.

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Until we meet again, be AWAP! Smooches!