You know, we face a lot of pressure to be really happy when it’s beautiful outside. But for many of us ChronicBabes, sunny days are not always happy days. Yet, we try to feel happy, sometimes stuffing down negative feelings.

It’s time to knock it off! In today’s video, I give you permission to #feelthefeels and be sad. Not to wallow, not to give up, but to acknowledge the realness of your temporary sadness. And not beat yourself.

Watch today’s video, then tell me: how do you honor your feelings, even when they’re negative or uncomfortable or not pretty?

*AWAP = As Well As Possible

Now it’s your turn:

Have you struggled to get OK with temporary sadness? I want to know! Share your experience in the comments below.

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Until we meet again: Be AWAP! Smooches!


(Loose) Transcript:

Summer is my favorite season of the year, and I adore every minute of it. Well, except for the minutes when my fibromyalgia flares up. Or when my depression kicks in. Or when I feel anxious.

Grrrrr why can’t I just enjoy every dang beautiful day of the season?! I don’t want to miss a single minute!

The reality is, I will have to miss some beautiful summer days because of health reasons. Perhaps you will, too. If you’re like me, you may feel extra-sad because of missing out, or guilty because you should be out there with your friends, or your kids. I get it.

So I give you permission to be sad. It’s OK! If you have to miss out, it’s understandable that you’d feel bummed. It’s OK.

We put a lot of pressure on ourselves to be strong, to be brave, and to always put a smile on, even in the face of awful stuff. And most of the time, that makes sense—sometimes it’s through toughing things out that we’re able to push past a plateau.

But sometimes, you’re just going to feel sad, and it’s OK. It’s not forever. You’re not being wimpy if you feel sadness. It’s a legit emotion that we all feel sometimes.

Am I giving you permission to mope all day or all week? Nope. Am I saying I support behaviors that can deepen depression symptoms? Nope.

What I AM saying is that you’re allowed to have a range of feelings. Sometimes those feelings are inconveniently timed, like on a beautiful summer day when you just want to cry.

You have my permission to feel what you need to feel, to recognize it, to learn from it, and to move on. You don’t need to prove anything to me, or to anyone else.

And take courage, because even if you feel sad on this beautiful, sunny day, there’s always tomorrow—and you just may feel a smile when you see the sun rise again.

Feel the feels, babe. It’s OK.

Thanks for watching today! Do you ever give yourself permission to just really feel your feelings and work through them? I’d love to know. Share your strategy in the comments here or head on over to the blog at ChronicBabe.com to join the conversation—I want to hear what YOU have to say.

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Until we meet again, be AWAP! Smooches!