Today’s AWAP Wednesday video looks at an issue ALL ChronicBabes face: Strengthening our doctor-patient relationships.To help you nurture stronger, more powerful relationships, I share the tactics I use to strengthen my relationships with health care providers (think: communication, research and preparation), which can help YOU get the treatment you need and deserve.

Watch today’s video, in which I offer three different tactics for relationship building. And then let me know what you think!

*AWAP = As Well As Possible

Now it’s your turn:

Have you built stronger relationships with your HCPs? Have any of your efforts fallen flat? I’m ready to hear it ALL. Join the conversation in the comments below, share your experience and ask for advice from our community.

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Until we meet again: Be AWAP! Smooches!

(Rough) transcript:

(waiting, waiting, waiting…)

Oh, hi! I was just waiting by the phone for my doctor to call. (Looks at imaginary watch.) Nah, just kidding — I have a GREAT relationship with my docs. Today I want to share some tactics that I use to strengthen my relationships with health care providers, which can help YOU get the treatment you need and deserve.

Hi! I’m Jenni Prokopy of and today is AWAP Wednesday (that stands for As Well As Possible). Each week, I offer you my favorite tips and techniques to help you craft an incredible life beyond illness. Yes! I know you can.

In Western society, we’re taught that “doctor knows best” all the time, to never question our health care providers, and especially — as women — to respect authority without fail.

I’m happy to report that I’ve tossed those societal rules out the window, and am engaging my health care providers in a very different approach: Collaboration.

There are three things I do with every health care provider to create a stronger vibe of mutual trust and respect, and I think they’ll work for you too.


When working with a new doctor (or working on a relationship I’ve already had for years) I ask my doctor how best to communicate with them. This is such a simple tactic but it works wonders! Some docs prefer that you use the new patient portals that are popping up all over the place. But some prefer you call their office directly. Others will even chat with you on social media.

When you ASK your doctor how she likes to communicate, you’re showing respect — and a spirit of collaboration. And when you respect their answer and use their preferred channels, you cement that respect.


Many health care providers hate it when we show up with a stack of printouts from the Interwebs. But we’re entitled to do our own research! So it’s great to figure out how your doctor likes to discuss your findings.

Before you show up with a ton of questions and research, ask your doc what their favorite websites, journals and magazines are for researching your particular illness. Ask them for any known bad resources. And then ask how they would like you to share what you find: Email them links? Print out the title page of a journal article?

By talking this process through early in the game, you can save yourself some valuable time you might otherwise spend on a bad resource, and you’re fostering a respectful, collaborative spirit with your doc. Cool, huh?


Finally, I always show up to an appointment with my medications list in hand. This saves time and eliminates confusion because it’s asy to read and easily shared.

I also arrive with a list of any questions or concerns I have, and if possible, I’ve also emailed these to my doc in advance of the appointment.

If I’ve got something really big to discuss, I’ve already asked for an extra chunk of time for the appointment to ensure we have enough time.

And I either bring a notebook to take down instructions or feedback, or I bring a friend or family member with me to make sure THEY hear everything and can help me remember it all later. Sometimes I even ask if I can record the appointment on my phone to listen to later.

When I come prepared, we can get SO MUCH MORE done during an appointment.

When you nurture trust and respect in your doctor-patient relationships, you can collaborate to create better outcomes.

Do you agree? Give me a thumbs-up on my video, if you’re ready to foster stronger relationships with your docs!

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Until we meet again, be AWAP! Smooches!

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