Today’s AWAP Wednesday video is all about what to do when someone offers you an unsolicited cure for your chronic illness.
I KNOW you get these all the time—I sure do—and it’s a pickle to figure out how to respond with grace and calm when you’re all riled up inside! So I’ve come up with a few ideas for you that just might help you have easier conversations.
Watch today’s video, in which I share some of my favorite conversation strategies for cure-offering busy bodies:
*AWAP = As Well As Possible
Now it’s your turn:
How do YOU respond when someone tries to push a cure on you? What has worked, and what hasn’t? I wanna know! Join the conversation in the comments below, share your experience and ask for advice from our community.
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Until we meet again: Be AWAP! Smooches!
Sitting under a special tree, which is home to angels who will bless me and cure me. Drinking tart cherry juice. Taking handfuls of supplements every few hours. Seeing a particular specialist who has a secret cure. These are all real things people have suggested to me to get rid of fibromyalgia. Grrrr… I KNOW you know what I’m talking about. Today, I’m talking about how to talk to people who offer you cures.
Hi! I’m Jenni Prokopy of ChronicBabe.com and today is AWAP Wednesday (that stands for As Well As Possible).
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It’s rough when someone offers a cure, right? Because many of us WISH for cures. We crave a fix. We would give almost anything to be well again.
So when someone offers us an unsolicited cure, it tugs on our heart strings for a moment. We want it to be real.
And then we feel the inevitable crushing blow of its non-realness. It’s almost like we get sick all over again, each time. It can feel like a little defeat.
And then we’re stuck with responding to this unsolicited cure, which is a quandary.
Consider the Source.
It’s one thing for one of our healthcare providers to suggest a new treatment, or for a well-meaning friend to forward a link to an article about new research. It’s a whole other thing for strangers to offer us “cures.”
Consider the source. Your response will be different, depending on who is offering the cure. If it’s your dear Aunt Linda, who doesn’t completely understand what you’ve got but wants to help, well, she means well. So you can respond with gratitude and grace.
But if it’s the lady behind you at the grocery store checkout, well, you don’t need to give her your precious time or energy.
Being mindful of the source, respond with clarity and simplicity. The more straightforward your response, the less likely you are to get sucked into a long conversation. Here are a few examples:
“Thank you for your concern. I have a great healthcare team who’s on the case.”
“I appreciate that suggestion, but that’s not something I’m comfortable doing.”
Keep it clear and simple. Expressing gratitude can also pave the way for a smooth interaction. It’s hard for people to argue you with you if you don’t give them material.
You don’t owe anyone an explanation. It’s as simple as that.
Practice Practice Practice.
You’re probably going to get a lot of recommendations throughout your life. Do yourself a favor and practice your responses. Try them out on a friend or family member. Practice until it feels natural.
When you have a stock answer memorized, it’s easier to respond calmly and without a big emotional investment, which can be draining.
Set a Boundary.
Some people will want to keep talking, or keep responding to a Facebook post, or whatever. You may need to set a boundary. Be clear. Try something like:
“Aunt Linda, you’re the sweetest, and I appreciate your concern. But let’s talk about something more interesting, like your apple pie recipe. How do you get the crust so flaky?”
“Thanks for posting this on my Facebook page; I can tell you really care. But I’ve got a treatment plan that works for me.”
Make it clear you’re not interested, and you’re moving the conversation along to something else.
If all else fails, leave the conversation. Bow out gracefully.
You don’t have time to waste on bogus cure conversation. Don’t give them your energy.
As my mom says, “Don’t let the turkeys get you down.” Be clear, set a boundary, move on with your day.
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Thanks for watching today! I would love to hear how you handle folks who want to share their “cures” with you! Share your strategy in the comments here or head on over to the blog at ChronicBabe.com to join the conversation—I want to hear what YOU have to say.
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Until we meet again, be AWAP! Smooches!
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