It is very easy to take the criticism of others personally. Trust me: As a public person, I receive a lot of criticism, so I’m continually learning how to NOT take it personally. In today’s video, I share a few things that help me keep my distance from the opinions of others:
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No offense, but… (insert something offensive)
Don’t take this personally, but… (insert something definitely personal)
It’s not a big deal but… (insert something that’s a big deal)
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(off-screen: Alix: Don’t take this personally, but…)
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It is very easy to take the criticism of others personally. Trust me: As a public person, I receive a lot of criticism, so I’m continually learning how to NOT take it personally. Here are a few things that help me keep my distance from the opinions of others:
They’ve got baggage
Every person who criticizes you has their own baggage, their own history, which impacts how they behave. It can be challenging, but maintaining some perspective on their background can help you shirk off their critique. For example:
Let’s say one of your friends is really harshing on how you talk to your significant other. Yes, it stings! But: She’s going through a divorce, so she’s probably projecting her own frustrations or fears, unintentionally. So perhaps instead of letting her criticism stick with you, you can try to release it, knowing it’s not about you.
It’s not about you
Speaking of “it’s not about you,” we often interpret things other people say as being aimed at us, when in fact, it has nothing to do with us. For example:
Let’s say you’re at the doctor’s office and the nurse puts you on the scale. “I see you’ve gained five pounds since your last visit,” she says. This can go two ways: You can feel like she’s saying it with a critical tone and get all hurt and embarrassed and irritated. Or: You can realize that she is a nurse, and she’s just doing her job, and five pounds is just a number, not a personal slight.
It’s not your business
Years ago, someone taught me this phrase: “What other people think of me, is none of my business.”
Whoa. Let that sink in.
In some cases, people are going to take issue with you. Sometimes, their criticisms are actually about you! But you know what? Not your business.
Their opinions don’t matter. You don’t need to let them dictate who you are, or how you behave. You can choose not to take it personally. Their opinions are none of your business.
Life’s too short to let other people’s opinions get you down. Don’t take it personally.
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Until we meet again, be AWAP! Smooches!