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The frustrating truth about the extra price we pay #AWAPwednesday #gymshorts

Posted by on May 31, 2017 in featured, practicalities, ranting | 26 comments

I was shopping today at Target and had a strong emotional reaction to some gym shorts. All the women’s workout shorts were very short. As in: my derriere would be hanging out the back if I weren’t careful. And none of them had pockets to hold my inhaler or my cell phone while I work out at the gym, or my keys if I want to take a long walk outside. And they were in cute colors, but also cut very weirdly in an attempt to accentuate my curves. Now, I don’t know about you, but I don’t care about my clothes accentuating my curves while I’m working out -that’s what the *workout* is for. So I browsed over to the men’s gym shorts and—lo and behold—all their shorts had pockets. Some of the shorts had THREE pockets! They were also a bit longer, so I wouldn’t have to worry about flashing my undies at fellow gym-goers when I’m doing floor work. Plus they were all about 30% cheaper. That’s right: 30% less money for shorts made with more fabric and with more bells and whistles and, ultimately, which fit me better. Woo hoo! I threw in a discounted sports bra (cuz I always look for sales) and went home with two new pairs of shorts… and my well-covered derriere (and my wallet) were happy. But seriously, can we talk? I got in the car and started feeling irritated. After a few minutes, I was downright angry. Why is it more expensive to be an as-healthy-as-possible woman? I already have to buy a sports bra (which men don’t have to do) – why are retailers also trying to make me pay more money for less benefits in the shorts department? Hmmmmm does this sound familiar? I see the same baloney in health care and maintenance today. Let’s start with period stuff: Women, over their lifetime, will spend approximately $18,000 on pads and tampons and stuff. Women also spend WAY more money than men on contraception. Plus the #wagegap. I mean, we start out at a disadvantage because most of us earn less than our male counterparts. We also tend to go to more health care appointments, because we require ob/gyn appointments and breast exams, and because we tend to have more chronic illness so we’re generally at the doc more. And much of that chronic illness hits us during our childbearing years, which are also prime income-earning years, so we lose out on all that money—and all that ability to save for our retirement, or build up cred in the social security system so our payments at retirement are less than most men. Sigh. The system is a bit rigged...

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5 Ways to Avoid Overwhelm When You Have Chronic Illness #AWAPwednesday

Posted by on Feb 15, 2017 in acceptance, ChronicBabe Basics, coping, featured, practicalities, Work | 12 comments

Okay, I’ve got to remember to go to the dry cleaners, and call my health insurance about the EOB, and make sure I take my new vitamins this afternoon, and paint my nails for a photo shoot, and, and write a handful of emails, and… whew! I am overwhelmed! So it really resonated when one of our fellow #ChronicBabes emailed me to ask about overwhelm. (Did you know you can request a video on specific topics or questions around chronic illness life?) It’s easy to get overwhelmed when we have chronic illness, because there are so many things to juggle—and the world is just overwhelming all on its own! I hope you find some of my tips helpful.     *AWAP = As Well As Possible Now it’s your turn: What kinds of things help you get calm and tackle overwhelm? I want to know! Tell me all about it in the comments below. Want more #AWAPwednesday? Check out our #AWAPwednesday video playlist, which has more than 130 videos packed with practical advice, lots of humor, and bloopers. Lots of bloopers. Is there a question I can answer for YOU? Add it to the comments below, or shoot me an email. Until we meet again: Be AWAP! Smooches! (Rough) Transcript: Hi! I’m Jenni Grover Prokopy of ChronicBabe.com and today is AWAP Wednesday (that stands for As Well As Possible). Each week, I offer you my personal favorite tips and techniques to help you craft an incredible life beyond illness. Yes! I know you can. Subscribe to the ChronicBabe YouTube channel today to make sure you never miss another video, OK? One of our fellow #ChronicBabes wrote me recently with a question about overwhelm. She’s been feeling more and more of it since she got sick, and she wondered if I sometimes got overwhelmed, too—and what I do about it. Girl, you KNOW I get overwhelmed sometimes! Not only do I have a handful of chronic illnesses to manage, but I also run my own business teaching women how to live full lives in spite of being sick chicks, and I’m finishing writing my first book, and I have a couple of time-consuming hobbies, and friendships and a husband to maintain, and… I am SO with you on the overwhelm thing. I have a few tricks up my sleeve when it comes to handling overwhelm. Here we go: Make a list. I know, it sounds obvious, but seriously: Make a list. Sometimes I use the reminders app that’s built into Apple computer products, so my lists are synced across all my devices. Sometimes I use the Evernote app if I want to make a list of things I share with my husband or a friend, so we...

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How to plan for a future with chronic illness #AWAPwednesday

Posted by on Oct 5, 2016 in acceptance, coping, fears, featured, practicalities | 0 comments

“What if?” can really haunt us. When we live with chronic illness, every day is full of surprises, and sometimes those surprises sideline our lives. It makes planning for our life ahead – in spite of chronic illness – very challenging. But I have a simple concept for you to consider in today’s video that I hope will help you get over the “what if” challenge and make plans anyway.   *AWAP = As Well As Possible Now it’s your turn: Do you get stuck on “what if” sometimes? Have you ever created a contingency plan? Tell me all about it in the comments below. Want more #AWAPwednesday? Check out our #AWAPwednesday video playlist, which has more than 100 videos packed with practical advice, lots of humor, and bloopers. Lots of bloopers. Is there a question I can answer for YOU? Add it to the comments below, or shoot me an email. Until we meet again: Be AWAP! Smooches! (Loose) Transcript: But what if my feet hurt and I can’t wear cute shoes on my wedding day? But what if I don’t sell enough books to make a down payment for a new car? But what if? What if? Hi! I’m Jenni Grover Prokopy of ChronicBabe.com and today is AWAP Wednesday (that stands for As Well As Possible). Each week, I offer you my personal favorite tips and techniques to help you craft an incredible life beyond illness. Yes! I know you can. Subscribe to the ChronicBabe YouTube channel today to make sure you never miss another video, OK? “What if?” can really haunt us. When we live with chronic illness, every day is full of surprises, and sometimes those surprises sideline our lives. It makes planning for our life ahead – in spite of chronic illness – very challenging. But I have a simple concept for you to consider today that I hope will help you get over the “what if” challenge and make plans anyway. Everyone Has “What Ifs” Here’s a revelation. You ready? Everyone – and I mean EVERYONE – has “what ifs” in their lives. People with huge amounts of money have “what ifs.” People who are broke face “what ifs.” Folks who are perfectly healthy have “what ifs” that keep them up at night. We ChronicBabes are not alone with feeling “what if?” Over and over, I hear from women with illness who are afraid to plan, because they’re worried about “what if” this or that happens – and they consider it a trait of those with chronic illness. They often forget they’re not alone with this challenge. Remembering that everyone worries about what may or may not happen in life can help us stay calm, and find the courage to...

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How to practice “stealth care” if you have chronic illness #AWAPwednesday

Posted by on Sep 21, 2016 in ChronicBabe Basics, featured, practicalities | 3 comments

“Stealth care” is made up of all those tiny things you do throughout the day to make yourself feel better. They may not seem obvious to others, and you may not even think of them as self-care — but they are essential to life as a ChronicBabe! Today, I share some strategies so YOU can begin to build up your stealth care routine.   *AWAP = As Well As Possible Now it’s your turn: What are some of your stealth care practices? Tell me all about it in the comments below. Want more #AWAPwednesday? Check out our #AWAPwednesday video playlist, which has more than 100 videos packed with practical advice, lots of humor, and bloopers. Lots of bloopers. Is there a question I can answer for YOU? Add it to the comments below, or shoot me an email. Until we meet again: Be AWAP! Smooches! (Loose) Transcript: (rifling through handbag) Let’s see, I’ve got my fan, my baby wipes, my meds, my phone charger, my… oh, hi there! I was just getting ready for a day of “stealth care.” Join me? Hi! I’m Jenni Grover Prokopy of ChronicBabe.com and today is AWAP Wednesday (that stands for As Well As Possible). Each week, I offer you my personal favorite tips and techniques to help you craft an incredible life beyond illness. Yes! I know you can. Subscribe to the ChronicBabe YouTube channel today to make sure you never miss another video, OK? Today’s video is a quickie, but an ESSENTIAL for all ChronicBabes. We’re talking about “stealth care,” a term my friend Cece and I came up with recently. “Stealth care” is our alternative term for self-care. I think we’re all bombarded with messages every day about self-care, and the overriding message – if you believe the advertising industry, anyway – is that self-care has to be big acts: An hour-long massage. A makeover. A new wardrobe refresher. A weekend getaway. But seriously, who has time for all that? I mean, if you do, more power to you! But I almost never have the time or money to do that kind of huge self-care action. So: “stealth care.” What is “Stealth Care?” “Stealth care” is made up of all those tiny things you do throughout the day to make yourself feel better. They may not seem obvious to others, and you may not even think of them as self-care. Here are a few examples from my life: I keep a lip balm in my purse, on my nightstand, in the living room, and in the kitchen, so I never have to get up to moisturize my kisser. (I take a bunch of meds that dry me out, so this is an issue for me.) Even during...

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How to Talk to Kids About Your Chronic Illness #AWAPwednesday

Posted by on Sep 14, 2016 in ChronicBabe Basics, featured, friends and family, practicalities, relationships | 3 comments

Have you ever needed to talk to a kid about your chronic illness? Not the easiest, is it? I recently got my first questions about it from one of my nieces, and I was very careful about what I said. Today, I share what has worked for me in the past. And I’m very curious to hear what works for you! *AWAP = As Well As Possible Now it’s your turn: How about you? Have you had conversations with your kids (or your friends’ kids) about your chronic illness? Tell me all about it in the comments below. Want more #AWAPwednesday? Check out our #AWAPwednesday video playlist, which has more than 100 videos packed with practical advice, lots of humor, and bloopers. Lots of bloopers. Is there a question I can answer for YOU? Add it to the comments below, or shoot me an email. Until we meet again: Be AWAP! Smooches! (Loose) Transcript: Hi! I’m Jenni Grover Prokopy of ChronicBabe.com and today is AWAP Wednesday (that stands for As Well As Possible). Each week, I offer you my personal favorite tips and techniques to help you craft an incredible life beyond illness. Yes! I know you can. Subscribe to the ChronicBabe YouTube channel today to make sure you never miss another video, OK? Why do you take medicine? My nine-year-old niece asked me this recently while I was visiting my family back in my hometown. Why did you decorate your pill case? What’s chronic illness? Why do you have it? She was full of questions! Most kids will be, by a certain age – especially when they start to realize that other people are noticing you’re different in some way. I’m not a parent, and I’m not a child psychology expert, so take what I have to say here with a grain of salt. Because I am a very active auntie to a handful of kids, biological relatives and family of choice. And I’ve had to explain my chronic illness to almost all of them. Don’t make it depressing If a little kid you love asks about your chronic illness, you are not obligated to explain all the gory details. In fact, I think simplicity is best; they’re going to take what you say and process it for a while, and you don’t want them thinking about all your intense symptoms, right? With my niece, I simply said I have a chronic illness that makes me hurt and makes me tired. That’s it. She’ll learn more about my many symptoms as she gets older, but for now, that’s enough information to give her a framework. Welcome their questions My niece didn’t understand what “chronic” meant. She gets illness, but the chronic part was hard...

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Community Collab: Your favorite comfort foods

Posted by on Sep 12, 2016 in community collab, featured, inspiration, practicalities | 0 comments

This summer, we’ve been hosting Questions Of The Week (QOTW) on our Facebook page, and it’s been great to see what our community is into! Last week, we asked: what’s your favorite comfort food? Here are some of your responses: Jenni: Sushi, specifically spicy tuna maki! Sandra: Double-baked potatoes. Bake you tater without foil. Scoop out the inside, add butter and sour cream and fake bacon bits and cheese, if you like. Get it mashed together and put back in the skin. You can then bake it off for snacks or freeze for later. We make 8-10 big potatoes at a time and freeze for the days you just can organize more than reheat. Joanne: I’m Italian; comfort food is definitely pasta. Any kind of homemade pasta. For a really difficult day when sweetness is required, affogato is my go to, easy to make and comforting with autumn soon here. Here’s the basic recipe for Affogato: Place 2 small scoops of quality vanilla ice cream (you can replace vanilla flavor by coffee or chocolate ice cream) in a coffee cup, then pour in a shot of espresso or 3 tablespoons strong brewed coffee. Top with shaved dark chocolate and chopped hazelnuts. Jennifer: My comfort foods tend to fall into the soup/bowl food category. Miso Soup (South River Miso makes soy-free miso which is perfect for me), and Arroz Caldo (a savory chicken and rice porridge with garlic and ginger) in particular since they both sit very well on an upset stomach (for me). As far as sweet things, honey is my comfort sweet whether it’s in tea or just a small spoon. Kathy: Chicken rice or noodle soup. Preferably my mom’s! Lynette: Mexican food. (Oh, me too! – Jenni) Erin: This is really simple, but I love rye bread toast with [vegan] butter. It reminds me of my dad because that was his favorite kind of...

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