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How to rock your look despite chronic illness #AWAPwednesday

Posted by on Aug 10, 2016 in ChronicBabe Basics, coping, Creativity, featured, inspiration, practicalities, self care | 24 comments

One question y’all send me over and over is: How do I look less frumpy? I get it. Many of us kind of live in PJs and sweat pants. But after a while, that’s a real drag – kind of boring and frumpy and bland. Who wants that kind of lifestyle? You can do better, babe. With a few simple steps, you can begin to rock your look – YOUR look! – and you’ll feel more put-together, more human, and more ready to conquer the world despite illness.     *AWAP = As Well As Possible Now it’s your turn: What are YOUR strategies for creating a unique look? How do you save on awesome accessories? Do you think it’s important to rock a look even if you’re a sicko? Share your experience in the comments below. Want more #AWAPwednesday? Check out our #AWAPwednesday video playlist, which has more than 100 videos packed with practical advice, lots of humor, and bloopers. Lots of bloopers. Is there a question I can answer for YOU? Add it to the comments below, or shoot me an email. Until we meet again: Be AWAP! Smooches! (Loose) Transcript: Hi! I’m Jenni Grover Prokopy of ChronicBabe.com and today is AWAP Wednesday (that stands for As Well As Possible). Each week, I offer you my personal favorite tips and techniques to help you craft an incredible life beyond illness. Yes! I know you can. Subscribe to the ChronicBabe YouTube channel today to make sure you never miss another video, OK? One question y’all send me over and over is: How do I look less frumpy? I get it. Many of us kind of live in PJs and sweat pants. But after a while, that’s a real drag – kind of boring and frumpy and bland. Who wants that kind of lifestyle? You can do better, babe. With a few simple steps, you can begin to rock your look – YOUR look! – and you’ll feel more put-together, more human, and more ready to conquer the world despite illness. Pin it You’re using Pinterest, right? Time to create a board where you gather inspiration for your look. Don’t get intimidated by how put-together people are, or how much things cost; at this point, you’re just compiling a visual map for your look. Get comfy Once you’ve honed in a little bit on your look, consider more comfortable alternatives to some of the things you like. For example, I love a stylish black pant, but some days, I don’t want to wear anything tight – it flares me up. So I found some beautifully comfy black workout pants, grabbed a size up so they’re really flowy and drapey, and those are my go-to...

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Don’t take this personally, but… #AWAPwednesday

Posted by on Aug 3, 2016 in ChronicBabe Basics, featured, friends and family, relationships, resilience | 0 comments

It is very easy to take the criticism of others personally. Trust me: As a public person, I receive a lot of criticism, so I’m continually learning how to NOT take it personally. In today’s video, I share a few things that help me keep my distance from the opinions of others: *AWAP = As Well As Possible Now it’s your turn: How have you shrugged off rude comments from others? How do you stop yourself from taking things personally? Share your experience in the comments below. Want more #AWAPwednesday? Check out our #AWAPwednesday video playlist, which has more than 100 videos packed with practical advice, lots of humor, and bloopers. Lots of bloopers. Is there a question I can answer for YOU? Add it to the comments below, or shoot me an email. Until we meet again: Be AWAP! Smooches! (Loose) Transcript: No offense, but… (insert something offensive) Don’t take this personally, but… (insert something definitely personal) It’s not a big deal but… (insert something that’s a big deal) Step one of learning how to not take things personally: earplugs as soon as you hear those warning phrases! (off-screen: Alix: Don’t take this personally, but…)   Hi! I’m Jenni Grover Prokopy of ChronicBabe.com and today is AWAP Wednesday (that stands for As Well As Possible). Each week, I offer you my personal favorite tips and techniques to help you craft an incredible life beyond illness. Yes! I know you can. Subscribe to the ChronicBabe YouTube channel today to make sure you never miss another video, OK? It is very easy to take the criticism of others personally. Trust me: As a public person, I receive a lot of criticism, so I’m continually learning how to NOT take it personally. Here are a few things that help me keep my distance from the opinions of others: They’ve got baggage Every person who criticizes you has their own baggage, their own history, which impacts how they behave. It can be challenging, but maintaining some perspective on their background can help you shirk off their critique. For example: Let’s say one of your friends is really harshing on how you talk to your significant other. Yes, it stings! But: She’s going through a divorce, so she’s probably projecting her own frustrations or fears, unintentionally. So perhaps instead of letting her criticism stick with you, you can try to release it, knowing it’s not about you. It’s not about you Speaking of “it’s not about you,” we often interpret things other people say as being aimed at us, when in fact, it has nothing to do with us. For example: Let’s say you’re at the doctor’s office and the nurse puts you on the scale. “I see you’ve...

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How to look really good even if you feel really bad #AWAPwednesday

Posted by on Jul 27, 2016 in ChronicBabe Basics, coping, featured, resilience, self care | 2 comments

  Being a ChronicBabe often means we have to make sacrifices—and that can mean we spend more time managing our symptoms and less time primping and practicing good self-care. No more! I dare you to look good. I know you can. Here are my six favorite tips for looking good even when you feel really bad. It will boost your mood, sugar—promise. *AWAP = As Well As Possible Now it’s your turn: How about you: How do you preserve your self-care routine even if you’re flaring up? Share your experience in the comments below. Want more #AWAPwednesday? Check out our #AWAPwednesday video playlist, which has more than 100 videos packed with practical advice, lots of humor, and bloopers. Lots of bloopers. Is there a question I can answer for YOU? Add it to the comments below, or shoot me an email. Until we meet again: Be AWAP! Smooches! (Loose) Transcript: My throat is scratchy, my fibro is flaring, and I definitely did not get enough sleep… But I look amazing. And I feel amazing, in part, because I look amazing. Today, I’m going to help you look fabulous, too. Hi! I’m Jenni Grover Prokopy of ChronicBabe.com and today is AWAP Wednesday (that stands for As Well As Possible). Each week, I offer you my personal favorite tips and techniques to help you craft an incredible life beyond illness. Yes! I know you can. Subscribe to the ChronicBabe YouTube channel today to make sure you never miss another video, OK?   All of us have days when we feel like crud, even non-ChronicBabes. But you’ve heard the phrase “fake it til you make it,” right? There’s real truth there, my loves. There are six things I do on crummy days that help me to feel gorgeous, which lifts my mood and helps me project an air of confidence and does wonders for my self-esteem. Here we go: Wash my face Even if I don’t have the time or energy to take a full shower, I wash my face and moisturize. Always. Put on mascara Some of you don’t wear makeup, and that’s cool, but some of us do. My little eyelashes are blonde, so when I don’t have mascara on, my eyes look really tired. So a quick coat of mascara does wonders. Put on real clothes As ChronicBabes, many of us spend most of our lives in PJs. Trust me–I loooove a good PJ pant. But on really crummy days when I want to feel beautiful in spite of my symptoms, I wave buh-bye to PJ pants and throw on a cute dress. It’s an easy way to feel “put together” in just one quick change. Drink water This is so simple and may...

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Block, ban, buh-bye: How to set boundaries in online chronic illness conversations #AWAPwednesday

Posted by on Jul 20, 2016 in ChronicBabe Basics, featured, friends and family, ranting, relationships | 0 comments

Are you sick of being irritated by Facebook? Tired of getting into online arguments with jerks? Me too! Today, I’m sharing my favorite tips for setting boundaries online so you can love social media again. Watch today’s video right now. *AWAP = As Well As Possible Now it’s your turn: How about you: Are you able to set boundaries? Do you ever ban or block folks on social media? Share your experience in the comments below. Want more #AWAPwednesday? Check out our #AWAPwednesday video playlist, which has more than 100 videos packed with practical advice, lots of humor, and bloopers. Lots of bloopers. Is there a question I can answer for YOU? Add it to the comments below, or shoot me an email. Until we meet again: Be AWAP! Smooches! (Loose) Transcript: Hi! I’m Jenni Grover Prokopy of ChronicBabe.com and today is AWAP Wednesday (that stands for As Well As Possible). Each week, I offer you my personal favorite tips and techniques to help you craft an incredible life beyond illness. Yes! I know you can. Subscribe to the ChronicBabe YouTube channel today to make sure you never miss another video, OK? There’s the denier: Your illness isn’t real. Your diagnosis isn’t accurate. Your symptoms are atypical so it can’t be (made-up disease name). There’s the comparer: At least you don’t have cancer. Or: Your pain may be a 5, but mine is one zillion! There’s the fixer: If you drink this or eat this or take this pill you’ll be fine. My aunt Mabel is cured!   And there’s the bully: You’re not really sick. You’re an asshole for sharing what works for you because it doesn’t work for everyone. you should (bleep) off. These folks are mostly well-meaning but let’s face it, they all suck to run into online. I mean, you’re there because you want help, you want to contribute, you don’t want to feel alone. These folks all get in the way. We will always have to learn how to cope with people who are different from us, and it’s a beautiful skill to learn to have meaningful dialogue. But when the dialogue is no longer meaningful, there are some easy tricks to minimize negative interactions. Quit. I don’t mean quit being online altogether, I mean quit the groups and forums where these folks thrive, and where moderators don’t step in to cultivate a positive community. There are a gajillion communities out there; you can find better ones. Block. If someone is still trolling you after you’ve given them a chance to change, block them. Yes, yes, people have the right to freedom of speech, but you have the right to stop listening. Cut them off. Ain’t nobody got time...

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How to ask for what you need when you have chronic illness #AWAPwednesday

Posted by on Jul 13, 2016 in ChronicBabe Basics, featured, friends and family, relationships, self care | 2 comments

Just about everyone—chronicbabes, chronicdudes, healthy folk—struggles with asking for help. It’s not the easiest to get vulnerable, and sometimes we don’t want to feel like a burden. But we live in communities for a reason: so we can coexist and help each other. Seriously. So you’ve gotta ask for help, babe. In today’s video, I’ve got three tips to help you be a better asker-for-helper. watch it now. *AWAP = As Well As Possible Now it’s your turn: Do you have trouble asking for help? What has worked for you in the past? Share your experience in the comments below. Want more #AWAPwednesday? Check out our #AWAPwednesday video playlist, which has more than 100 videos packed with practical advice, lots of humor, and bloopers. Lots of bloopers. Is there a question I can answer for YOU? Add it to the comments below, or shoot me an email. Until we meet again: Be AWAP! Smooches! (Loose) Transcript: (reading from a scroll) I need cake. I need a foot massage. I need a hoverboard. I need unlimited access to quilting fabric. I need more nail polish. I need a green smoothie, like, STAT. I need a bigger closet. I need my tomatoes to get ripe. I need all the cash. I need a thousand more wishes. I need candy. Hi! I’m Jenni Grover Prokopy of ChronicBabe.com and today is AWAP Wednesday (that stands for As Well As Possible). Each week, I offer you my personal favorite tips and techniques to help you craft an incredible life beyond illness. Yes! I know you can. Subscribe to the ChronicBabe YouTube channel today to make sure you never miss another video, OK? Why do we have trouble asking for what we need? So many people, not just ChronicBabes, have trouble asking others for help. For ChronicBabes, there’s a huge desire to be fiercely independent, to avoid feelings of inadequacy, or feeling like a burden. I’m here to tell you that’s whack, babes. You’re allowed and encouraged to ask for help. You’re amazing, but you’re not Superwoman. Be direct Asking people for help sucks. But you gotta do it. Throw your hat in the ring and ask for what you need. Be direct: “I need help loading my groceries into my car” or “I need recommendations for a good babysitter.” You can even ask for help to ask for help: “I need help brainstorming how to ask my boss for more at-home work days.” Don’t expect people to read your mind Similarly, don’t assume your friends, family, and acquaintances know what you need. They aren’t mind readers and unless you tell them you need something–and exactly what it is you need–it probably won’t get done. And sitting around waiting for someone...

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How to Be a Good Friend if You Have Chronic Illness #AWAPwednesday

Posted by on Jul 6, 2016 in ChronicBabe Basics, featured, friends and family, relationships | 0 comments

Lots of ChronicBabes put way too much pressure on ourselves to be perfectly reliable and present for everything—and to always plan fun outings and events. But babe, most of your friends don’t care if you’ve planned a special outing. What they really care about is connecting with you. They’re probably just as happy staying in, doing a face mask and watching a bad movie. And who do you know how is perfectly reliable? I mean, really? Anyone? The reality is, no one can be perfectly reliable—it’s just now how humans operate. You can be a good friend by planning fun times that work for YOU, and YOUR good friends will come along for the ride. Today’s video is all about how to be a good friend, which you totally can do! Even with chronic illness. Watch it now: *AWAP = As Well As Possible Now it’s your turn: How do you make sure you’re always being a good friend? How do you handle scheduling with friends? Share your experience in the comments below. Want more #AWAPwednesday? Check out our #AWAPwednesday video playlist, which has more than 100 videos packed with practical advice, lots of humor, and bloopers. Lots of bloopers. Is there a question I can answer for YOU? Add it to the comments below, or shoot me an email. Until we meet again: Be AWAP! Smooches! (Loose) Transcript: Lots of ChronicBabes put way too much pressure on ourselves to be perfectly reliable and present for everything – and to always plan fun outings and events. But babe, most of your friends don’t care if you’ve planned a special outing. What they really care about is connecting with you. They’re probably just as happy staying in, doing a face mask and watching a bad movie. And who do you know how is perfectly reliable? I mean, really? Anyone? The reality is, no one can be perfectly reliable – it’s just now how humans operate. You can be a good friend by planning fun times that work for YOU, and YOUR good friends will come along for the ride. Your illness might be something like Crohn’s or fibromyalgia, which can cause big flare-ups out of nowhere – so you may be fearful of making plans in advance. That doesn’t mean you can’t make an effort to see folks. While some people don’t have the flexibility to do last-minute stuff, plenty of folks do – so give yourself permission to host last-minute gatherings whenever you feel like it. Just don’t take it personally if some people can’t make it – just like you hope your friends don’t take it personally when you have to cancel. You can be a good friend by continuing to invite folks...

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