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Home » Articles » Chronically Sexy
Chronic illness can be sexy...part two: Rosalind responds
My recent piece on how I think chronic illness can be sexy has drawn some interesting comments...including one from Rosalind Joffe, who inspired me to write the piece in the first place. Here's her response:
Jenni,
As usual with your wonderful, creative writing, you've taken my somewhat "boring" piece—on chronic illness being a boring topic to people—and turned it into an issue people can better connect with: sex.
As you said, my title was referring to the sex appeal of chronic illness as an issue or topic conversation in public forums. And my frustration arises because I think this prevents more important changes from occurring—such as more flexible workplaces, more open dialogue in the workplace about differences and wider healthcare options. But let's talk about: Is chronic illness sexy?
I don't think so but I'm willing to hope you're right. I love that you're working at making it so. Hey, my gig is about creating a mental model that promotes your well being. But I find it hard to view my disabilities as things that make me more attractive—or more sexual. I live with an ileostomy. I could say it doesn't affect how I feel about my body or my sexuality—but that's a lie. And when I'm totally fatigued (or in pain), I feel like a dishrag—and that's what I put out. I can "rise above it"— forget about it—but I have a hard time "promoting it".
- Rosalind
I completely understand what Rosalind is talking about, and I think most of us ChronicBabes agree—when we're feeling like crap, it's hard to get geared up to be a vixen.
And while I'm not completely comfortable dishing the details of my sex life, I can tell you that sometimes you have to fake it 'til you make it. It helps to have an open-minded partner, someone who can distract you from your negative thoughts or concerns long enough to get your mind somewhere else...you know where.
Anyway, if you want to add to this discussion, email us and we'll include a few comments in another follow-up piece!
Posted: 6/16/2008 in Chronically Sexy
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